Esra NEWS Agency: Today is the first of Dhu al-Hijjah, the anniversary of the marriage of Imam Ali and Hazrat Zahra, peace be upon them and we are looking into the view of Ayatollah Javadi about the religious principle and fundamentals of successful marriage.

In the religion of Islam, marriage and family have been one of the most important recommendations of religious guides to their followers As Rasool Alamian (PBUH) used the phrase " فلیس منّی " for those who reject to get married to express its importance. Certainly, following the path of that Prophet and following his Sunnah and way of life depends on following his noble orders and ignoring it is reprehensible. In the meantime, the wise opinion of Grand Ayatollah Javadi Amoli on various occasions can strengthen the basic ways of preserving and establishing the blessed life of married couples.

Grand Ayatollah Javadi Amoli says in this regard, “The basis of human life is based on the guidance of the one who created us, and that is Allah. Since man is not like angels, for counties of human life they must get married, and marriage should be according to the principles that are stable and the future generation, righteous children, will rise from this family. Therefore, the most Holy essence, Allah analyzed this matter completely that when you start you should start in the name of Allah and ask him for a righteous child.”

Referring to the common duties between husband and wife, he discussed the wise religious behavior in the face of problems and stated, “The joint life of husband and wife has a series of common duties. A series of special duties was stated by Almighty Allah in the Holy Quran and the duties specific to each of the two parties. Regarding joint duties, he said that you are a central core that will produce righteous children, ﴿نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَكُمْ فَأْتوْا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّی شِئْتُمْ وَقَدِّمُوا لْأَنْفُسِكُمْ﴾ Therefore, before marriage, he said: Think of a righteous child, this is a common duty between husband and wife, but he said about the special duty of men who are responsible for providing for life ﴿وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ﴾ That is, treat your wife in a way that is acceptable to reason and religion; He is not a house worker, he is not a house agent, but he is your comrade, friend, wife, equal value and equal weight, which means that a man should behave with a woman in the house in a way that is determined by religion. A man should live in a way that is rational the way that Allah determined, therefore Allah said in the Holy Qur'an ﴿وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ﴾”

A woman has the duty of maintaining peace and calmness at home

Grand Ayatollah Javadi Amoli further pointed to the creation of peace between couples, especially the special duty of women and acknowledged, “It is true that a man provides housing, provides expenses, provides clothes, provides food, but creating peace is not the responsibility of a man, he does not have that power, nor that duty, but this duty is for a woman. Creating peace and calmness comes from the woman and it is also the responsibility of the woman because he said ﴿خَلَقَ لَكُم مِنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجاً لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَیهَا﴾. Peace is related to the emotional matter. Although Allah gave this treasure to men, He did not give it to men as much as He gave it to women. That kindness, that affection, that gentleness, that forgiveness, that motherly feeling that is in a woman is not in a man, just as the work, effort and sweat breaking that comes from a man does not come from a woman.”

the basis of life; Wise friendship and compassionate forgiveness of each other's mistakes

His Eminence considered and expressed wise friendship and compassionate kindness as the basis of marital life, “Finally, if these two elements want to be in harmony, both dowry and home appliances are required, but both dowry and home appliances must be simple, because a life full of effort and luxury is nothing but difficulty. We have all experienced that people try and try to get a carpet, get a car, and finally get it in installments, but after getting it, they don't have peace, it turns out that they didn't want this, they wanted something else. Human wants an eternal beloved and thinks that his beloved is in wealth, garden, and pleasure, so under the verse of Surah Mubaraka Nahal, says ﴿فَلَنُحْیینَّهُ حَیاةً طَیبَةً﴾ We will make him live a good life or we will make his life good. The blessed existence of Hazrat Amir (AS) said: A good life is "contentment". Allah said ﴿وَجَعَلَ بَینَكُم مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً﴾ These are two things that maintain the basis of marital life, one is wise friendship towards each other and the other is kindness and compassionate forgiveness of each other's mistakes. The usual dowry and normal home appliances are normal thing, but they never warm up the life; He said these two things make life warm ﴿وَجَعَلَ بَینَكُم مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً﴾؛ Wise friendship and forgiveness of others' mistakes! Because all of us, except the Infallible Imams, eventually have a slip. if friendship is based on youth and instinct, as soon as we get older, the instinct will fall and the foundation of the family will start to crumble.”

Husband and wife must protect each other’s secrets

At the end of his discussion, His Eminence advised couples to protect each other’s secrets in all aspects of life and pointed out, “In Surah Al-Baqarah, he said﴿هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنْتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَهُنَّ﴾ husband and wife should protect each other's honor and should protect each other’s secret, not to tell each other's secrets to their parents, just as clothes protect a person's honor and protect a person from the cold and heat, they must Protect each other from hot and cold events ﴿هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنْتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَهُنَّ﴾ These things by the most holy Divine Essence form the pattern of marital life on the axis of love and affection, then a society which its families is formed by these principles, the people of the society also originated from these families, the society will be a society of wisdom and love, because all of them are from the family of wisdom, all of them They came from the family of love. In such a society, there is no corruption, no embezzlement, no violation of security, no violation of trust.

We hope that Allah will make everyone, the Shiites of the Ahl al-Bayt, all the young people subject to his special love and blessing.

Source: His Eminence’s speaches

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